Talking to strangers in video chats can sometimes result in quarrels, conflicts, and unpleasant experiences, just the same way as in real life. For example, one may feel outraged by an intolerant comment on racism left by someone else. Most likely it was an intentional provocation of a conflict by an online bully seeking attention. Such people do not hesitate to use the most debatable topics and offensive words to make other people react accordingly. However, once you respond in a way this kind of people want you to, you make his or her wishes come true, right? That is why, when chatting online and spotting angry or conflict provoking comments, it is important to know how to respond correctly. Here are some techniques on how to deal with inadequate people in chat rooms.
- Double-check you got it right
If you just logged in to the chat room and saw a message that you found unpleasant to yourself or other people, make sure you read the previous messages and understood it correctly. It is improper to start debating over the last caught word, especially if you did not get the topic.
- Express your disagreement
You want to let the offender know he or she is wrong but you do not have to lower down to offender’s level. Simply express your opinion without mentioning and appealing to the author of the message. Probably, your comment will find a lot of positive responses and leave offender’s comment without attention.
- Avoid blaming and assuming
Do not try to say something like “People like you are always like this.” Such assumptions are vague and bear no meaning; basically, you do exactly what this person wants – react.
- Do not take it personally
In most cases, online bullies from chatroulettes or video chats forget things they say the very moment they get offline. They just do it because they know there will follow no punishment for what they say or do. So, if there is a possibility, just click move on to talk to the next person.
- Do not moralize
People hate moralizers. If it happens there is an inadequate person in a group chat, do not try to open a tiresome discussion on what is right or wrong. First thing to remember is that people come to video chats to have fun and relax.
What If The Bully Targets You Personally?
There may be a huge difference as to how to respond when a bully targets a general chat audience and a single person. If you are in this situation, try to talk to a bully in private and ask if he or she has a problem with you. The most important thing is not to indulge in reciprocate insult or an angry verbal conflict screen-to-screen. Finally, as it has been said earlier, the easiest way is to simply click the “Next” button and talk to someone else. Also, you can block or make a bully suspended by leaving a complaint to chat moderator.